Not always are candlelight meals and stolen kisses marriage. Sometimes late-night arguments, icy relations, and questions about when things started to seem so far apart. Actually, most marriages do not fall apart over night. One unsolved conflict at a time, they gradually dissolve. One silent bitterness at a time Couples under counseling are not waiting until the last straw. It’s about gathering the fragments before they become dust. Find out more!
Ever feel as though you are repeatedly fighting the same fight? Not only you but also others. Most couples find themselves caught in routines whereby one person shuts down and the other pushes harder. One lashes out as the other withdraws. Therapy breaks these patterns so you’re not simply running through the same arguments over and over.
Then there is communication—or lack of it. Though nothing is landing, maybe you are speaking. Words become warped, intentions become misinterpreted, and soon you are speaking another language. By removing defensiveness, a counselor encourages you to truly connect rather than merely pass words.
One of slow poisons is resentment. Little disappointments, unspoken words, and over time it creates a wall separating you. It becomes more difficult to demolish the longer it runs uncontrolled. Therapy provides a forum for you to clean the air before resentment solidifies into something unworkable.
And let us now discuss intimacy—the emotional sort as much as the physical. That spark flickers from stress, unresolved conflict, or simply the everyday grind. Counseling reminds you both of the reason you originally selected each other and helps you restore the relationship.
Love has nothing to do with avoiding strife. It’s about developing the ability to negotiate it. And occasionally, the difference between growing apart and growing together is having a professional in your side line.